Recently, the coronavirus has drastically changed our world, our communities, and our homes. Although we have been well aware of the virus quickly spreading through many different countries, it seems that we went from business as usual to the world basically shutting down in the matter of hours. The biggest changes for me personally have been the schools closing and my husband working from home indefinitely.
The truth is, every couple needs a little alone time – even those in the healthiest marriages. But that’s a luxury we may have taken for granted. The next several weeks won’t be easy, but there are some things we can do to lower the stress level and even strengthen our relationships during the coronavirus quarantine.
Grieve the Change
There are many things to grieve at this time. Besides the virus itself, we are dealing with the loss of our social lives, our kid’s social lives, our daily routines, and so much more. So many life disruptions and changes can make us feel helpless and out of control. First of all, give yourself permission to grieve. Next, give your spouse permission to grieve. As you process it all, share your feelings with your spouse and use this time to comfort each other and grow together.
Share Your Fears
Your feelings are legitimate and if fear is one of them, you need to address it. Talk to your spouse about your concerns and look for ways you can support them in theirs.
Take a Break
As I mentioned, even couples in the healthiest relationships need alone time. You and your spouse might need different types of breaks. Perhaps it’s a walk around the neighborhood, or a scenic drive. You could take a long bath, or watch your favorite TV show uninterrupted. Ask your spouse what kind of break they need and ask for what you need. Do this once a day, even if it’s only for a few minutes. It will go a long way.
Dress Up
It’s easy to stay in your pajamas all day when you’re literally on lock down. Don’t let this become a habit. Put some effort into your appearance every day. Not only will this boost your mood, it will light a spark in your marriage. After all, dressing for your spouse has less to do with love and more to do with romance. And romance is essential while you’re quarantined with your spouse.
Don’t Forget Date Night
Events have been canceled, venues have shut down, and most restaurant dining rooms have closed. But who says you can’t date your spouse while you’re quarantined? It’s all about perspective. My friend and fellow marriage-blogger has a list of at-home-date-night ideas you can check out. Make it special by calling or texting your spouse (even if they’re in the next room) and officially asking them out.
Virtual double date.
Speaking of date night, why not make it a double? My husband and I love going out with friends. Organize a group date by picking a movie you all have and watching it at the same time. With so many social apps and technology, you could literally watch while talking to each other, or just texting while you watch. The possibilities are endless.
Ask Your Spouse What They Need
Again, be aware of your spouse and their needs. It can be easy to want to stay strong or put up a front during these difficult times. Everyone deals with things differently, so ask your spouse what they need and how you can help. We’re all in this together.
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