One of the best things about being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the automatic community. Wherever you live in the world, there are leaders and ministers looking out for you. But being part of a community doesn’t always mean we have instant friendships. Making friends at church can be an entirely different thing. And whether you’re new in your ward or an introvert like me, I believe that friendships are vital for thriving in any society. Although these tips may get you out of your comfort zone, which is a good thing, they will also help you foster meaningful connections and create lasting friendships at church.
Attend Meetings and Activities
It may seem too obvious, but if you want to make friends at church, you need to attend church! It can be scary to put yourself out there, but regularly attending Sunday meetings, midweek activities, and special events will allow you to engage with fellow members on a consistent basis. This presence provides an opportunity for others to get to know you and vice versa. Be open to new experiences and willing to step outside of your comfort zone, as this will help you connect with a diverse range of individuals.
Show Genuine Interest
When engaging in conversations with others at church, demonstrate a genuine interest in their lives. Ask open-ended questions and actively listen to their responses. Remember important details, use their first name, and follow up on previous conversations. By showing genuine curiosity and concern for others, you create a foundation of trust and mutual understanding. This approach allows you to forge connections based on shared experiences and interests, leading to more meaningful friendships.
Serve Others
Our church provides numerous opportunities for service within the community. Volunteering alongside other members not only contributes to society, but also facilitates the formation of strong bonds. By working together towards a common goal, you can experience the joy of service while fostering connections with like-minded individuals. Engaging in acts of kindness and selflessness promotes an atmosphere of love and unity, fostering genuine friendship.
Magnify Your Calling
As you faithfully fulfill your calling, you naturally become more involved in church activities, meetings, and events, allowing you to meet and interact with those you serve. Through these interactions, you have the chance to develop deeper relationships, build trust, and find common ground, ultimately fostering a sense of belonging within the church. Magnifying your calling not only benefits those you serve but also opens doors for lasting friendships that can provide support and encouragement in your life.
Be a Light
I love the saying, “You find what you look for.” If you want to have friends, you need to be a friend. If you want to see more light in the world, you need to be a light in the world. This talk by President Nelson is full of great reminders on what kind of woman I want to be. In fact, I created a beautiful print-out of all these beautiful truths so I can be reminded of them every day. I made it so you can display it in your home, give to your ministering sisters, or stick it on your mirror as a reminder of all the ways you are needed in the world today.
Building friendships within the church takes time and effort, but the rewards are immeasurable. By actively participating, showing genuine interest, serving others, magnifying your calling, and being a light, you can cultivate deep and meaningful connections with your sisters. Together, you can strengthen one another’s faith, support each other through challenges, and celebrate life’s joys.
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